. The Answer is NO
When we must say NO to others, we are such weaklings. We say NO, they counter. We begin to explain or discuss or excuse. As soon we do, we are in a position of weakness and they get the upper hand. Soon the tables are turned and we are moving to, “Well, maybe….” “O.K., if you’re going to be so hardheaded about it…” or “I don’t understand why you won’t take no for an answer, but since you won’t, then….”
My friends, if we say NO, we have to stick to our NO. Yes, one hundred percent, super glue stick to it. If we don’t mean to say NO, then say, “Maybe…” “I’ll think about it and give in within two minutes…” or “I’m such a wimp, might as well just say yes and be done with the conflict…”
But we cannot be weaklings. Weaklings let their kids get into a little trouble now which turns into bigger trouble later. Weaklings give in a little bit this time and aren’t even asked when the important issues are at stake. Weaklings can’t parent or mentor or have healthy relationships! You and I, always, when we need to say NO and do say NO, need to stick to our NO.
Somewhere in our relationships there is a person we tend to give in to when we don’t want to. There is a point where we have to choose between popularity and rightness, properness, and just sound judgment. We know who that person is, we know when we regularly recede to, “Well, all right…” after we have confidently and yet indecisively said our NO.
To bring good order to that relationship and to be taken seriously by all others that surround us, live with us, associate with us, and love us, take courage this week. Look in the mirror today and practice, “I’m sorry. This is not up for discussion. I have said NO. And NO it remains. No amount of whining, pouting, procrastinating, or pushing will change my mind. The answer is NO!”
Please, my friends, it is easier to say NO sooner than later, firmer than wimpy, and on smaller matters before they become major problems. Go for the NO when it is appropriate and stick to it like super glue, my super friends because saying NO and meaning it will bring much order to your own soul and to the lives of all you touch. Take care this week and be strong! Someone, meaning you and I, needs to take a stand! The answer is NO!
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