Say Goodbye with Care
I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye, nor did many that knew her well. Her immediate friends had talked, called, and texted her that very day about the upcoming preference dance activities, the neighbors were busy and going this way and that as we all do on a Friday. Her sister had come home for the weekend and together they were going to out for the evening.
The Last Goodbye
It was so normal, so very normal. And yet the day ended so different than any of us expected. Some neighbors even passed the accident on the freeway and didn’t know they were passing the trauma of a good friend’s goodbye. Others of us heard on Saturday morning as the wildfire of sadness spread through the neighborhood and out through the town.
Say Hello with Kindness
And so today, in all the order that we try to find in our lives, let’s pace our lives to say “Hi” when we greet and “Bye” when we depart with a bit of “I love you always” just in case it is the last time and we never get to say “Hello” again. Let’s make sure that each and every greeting sends the love we share with those we care about most.
Keep the Memories Close
I saw Lindsay just a few days ago, bright and happy, glowing about the eyes as was her nature. I wish now that my wave had been a bit more kind, a bit more cheerful, and a bit more showing of the tenderness I felt for her.
I will mourn with her family this week and as I wave, or greet people, or say goodbye, I will try to do it differently. As we go and come, hurry and push through our activities, let’s all remember to slow down enough that our “Hi-Byes” are deeply felt, deeply expressed, and deeply shown expressions of our emotions. And so to you my friends, I say “Bye, I love you” with hopes that there will be many more “Hi-Byes” between us!
P.S. As you may know, I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Our son, Evan, would have been 19 on Saturday, November 1, 2008. He did not get to serve a mission for our Church. However, my husband was recently called to serve in the branch presidency at the L.D.S. Missionary Training Center in Provo, Utah and I serve with him three to four days a week. In some ways we will serve a “mission” in Evan’s behalf as we associate with other young people of our faith who are preparing to spread the good news of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. In that capacity, I will be careful to make all my “hi’s” and “bye’s” meaningful and kind.
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