. Let the Hurt Go
One of my favorite uncles died unexpectedly on Sunday evening. He has had cancer and the prognosis wasn’t good, but he slipped away earlier than expected in the quiet of twilight. He also happened to die on the anniversary of my own dad’s heavenly birthday, so the passing was doubly poignant to me.
Surprisingly, I have had a lot of emotion, both for Uncle Clint, whom I adored from afar while he raised his family far away from my own childhood home, and then more closely as he and Aunt Rachel tenderly and gently guided me through some more recent difficult times. They just seemed to understand my needs and how to help. They were generous with their home, invited my family to reunions, to red & purple parties, and to wedding celebrations. They include me and mine.
And now Uncle Clint is gone and I am bereft and little able to embrace this new loss and keep up with my previously set schedule. So I have decided this week to let it go. Some of the projects, meetings, and obligations are just going to have to go, because I’m in unexpected mourning again.
I think it is same with all of you from time to time. You have a sadness in your life. You deal with it and go on and then some unexpected, later event brings both a new AND all the old emptiness back again. When that happens, it is all right to let it go. Let the business of your life go for awhile (without doing much explaining as to why you need a break), let the routines slid (without feeling guilty), and let your heart and mind soak in the new emotions and find a way to deal with them (without trying to keep up the rush of your obligations).
Let it go! You hurt, the pain is real, and you are in charge of letting it go until you can find new answers, more energy, and a healing of hope. Take care my friends. When you hurt, remember that you don’t always need to understand why you hurt, you just need to let life go for a bit while you make sense again of your heart.
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Your gift of understanding touched me today. Thank you.